Gifting your surrogate is a thoughtful gesture and many intended parents choose to present her with one during either her 20 week ultrasound appointment or at delivery (often referred to as “push presents”).
Jewelery with sentimental value such as her birthstone or necklace with one can make for a thoughtful present, as can personal care baskets, prenatal vitamins or herbal tea.
Spa Gift Basket
An elegant spa gift basket is a wonderful way to show your surrogate that you care for their health and comfort during gestation. She may experience many discomforts like morning sickness, swelling feet and backache – this basket filled with lotion, foot soak, slippers and other pampering items will help her relax after an exhausting day’s work! If intended parents wish, they can even include a massage gift certificate as part of the package!
Based on her preferences, you could also include other items she would appreciate, like a journal for pregnancy tracking or picture frame with sonogram photo of her baby. A necklace or bracelet featuring their birth flower/stone will surely bring comfort, while for personal delivery a thoughtful card with personal message would suffice.
If you can’t visit in person, a Zoom meet-up with pizza and beverages is also a wonderful way to show your surrogate how much she means to you. Or consider giving something more substantial like dinner vouchers or restaurant gift cards as gifts that are sure to bring smiles!
Surrogates live hectic lives and must balance work, children, and other responsibilities while pregnant. Finding time and energy for housework and meal preparation may be challenging; meal delivery services such as Bump Box or Olive Grove Boutique in Iowa provide one-time or subscription options tailored specifically to surrogate mothers’ needs.
If you prefer something online gift cards can be an easy and cost-effective way to express your thanks for her hard work. There are premade cards available online or you can create custom ones yourself using computer programs – adding personalization will only enhance their meaning! Whatever gift you give your surrogate it’s important that she knows you appreciate her hard work.
Delivery Gift
Gifting your surrogate on the occasion of delivery is another wonderful way to show her your gratitude. From hiring a baby sitter so you can surprise her with dinner and a movie, or giving a gift card for her favorite store carrying maternity wear, she will surely appreciate your thoughtfulness. A photo frame with either their baby’s birth date or due date engraved is another thoughtful present she can enjoy throughout their child’s childhood years.
Many intended parents form strong bonds with their surrogates. You might consider giving her something memorable like a framed photo of the two of you together or an album filled with memories from your journey together, jewelry that features your child’s initials or birthstone or a personalized ring she can keep wearing long after pregnancy is over.
If your surrogate’s family is an integral part of her journey, offering small gifts can be an amazing way to demonstrate how much you appreciate her role in making your family complete. Choose toys for her children; books; stuffed animals to help explain the process to them or gifts that make mealtime simpler such as meal delivery services subscription or box of cookies – whatever suits their personality!
Note that choosing the appropriate gift for your surrogate should be an individual decision; your Simple Surrogacy team is here to support and assist you as you explore this avenue! We look forward to hearing about her journey!
Gifts Cards
Intended parents frequently ask themselves whether it would be appropriate to present a surrogate mother with a gift, and while this is not required, many do. Gifts show appreciation, gratitude and friendship – they don’t need to be costly either! Gifts may be given during visits or on specific milestones such as her birthday, transfer day or at delivery (known as “push presents”).
Care packages or baskets can be an ideal way to give multiple gifts that she will truly appreciate. Whether you purchase pre-curated online packages or DIY your own, consider including items like new pillows, heating pads, pregnancy pillows and books she wants to read – as well as sweet treats or other fun surprises – in your care package or basket.
An alternative gift option could be a gift card that she can use to buy herself something she’s been desiring – whether that means massages, mani-pedis, movie nights or dining out at her favorite restaurant – massages, mani-pedis or gift certificates to grocery stores will allow her to stock up on groceries for herself and baby at her leisure.
Pregnancy can be both emotionally and physically draining for surrogates, so giving her an unforgettable memento such as a maternity photo shoot as an unforgettable present is truly thoughtful and worthwhile. Additionally, providing them with an elegant frame to display and purchase prints would add the final touches.
Jewelry gifts are always well received, and pregnancy-specific pieces such as earrings or a necklace with the baby’s birthstone make great presents. Or you might consider more sentimental options like necklaces featuring his/her heartbeat!
Food gifts are always welcome gifts because they can be sent directly to her door and provide essential nutrition for both her and the baby. You could choose a meal delivery service like Blue Apron, or make her something delicious yourself and deliver it yourself. A box full of cookies or cupcakes would also make an excellent present!
Handmade Gifts
Most surrogates become pregnant because they enjoy helping others create families. As a thank-you gesture, intended parents often wish to offer something extra-special as gifts for their surrogate’s pregnancy and postpartum experience – such as bath bombs, rejuvenating face masks, candles or fuzzy socks which make her feel relaxed and special during this special journey.
Care packages or gift baskets filled with items to aid her during her pregnancy would also make great presents, although generic gift cards or items from favorite stores would work just as well. Also consider giving personalization such as framing her sonogram photo or engraving her baby’s heartbeat onto key chains as these will be especially meaningful to both parties involved.
Food makes an excellent surrogate gift. A restaurant gift certificate may come in especially handy during her first trimester when morning sickness may strike – going out for dinner can provide her with some much-needed respite and reduce some of the anxiety during gestation.
Sentimentally-motivated gifts like necklaces with their baby’s birthstone or earrings featuring seed or heart symbols make special keepsakes. Many intended parents also ask their surrogate to sign a baby book with an important message from them, add photos together or even take her on an outing such as visiting a theme park!
Some surrogates and their IPs live far apart in different states or countries, and we have heard from several surrogates that they appreciate gifts reminiscent of home towns or family like cookies or candy made locally on transfer or baby birth day. Surrogates have told us these touches can make an especially touching gesture.